Why is gossip bad

Why is gossip badown database. Unless Sam does a considerable
I never understood how dangerous gossip is until Iamount of effort to prove otherwise your friend will
studied psychology where I discovered that a wordfind hundreds of clues that supports the fact that he
or two that we say can result in destroying theis mean.
relationship of many people months later!!Your friend will then start to treat Sam in a bad way
Your mind doesn’t see, hear or read but it triesafter discovering that he is mean which will let Sam
to match what it receives from the external worldrespond back with bad treatment too.
with what it has in the internal world and That’sShortly those two people will become enemies and
why you mihgt not notcie the erros that are in thisthey will start to hate each other. And guess what,
phrsae you are currenlty raeding.all of this happened because of the small seed you
Even if you noticed these errors your mind willplanted when you told your friend that Sam is a
quickly try to find a match for them in its internalmean person!!
database so that it allows you to get the correctNow what if you told him that Sam is mean, selfish,
meanings.worthless and not interesting?
The same goes for hearing, have you ever heard a
phrase that you didn't recognize its words then fewGossip and mind programming
seconds later you got what the other person wasOur minds get programmed by repetition. Even if
trying to say? Its the same thing exactly, your mindyour friend was on good terms with Sam, still
tried to find the closest match for the phrase andrepeating the fact that he is mean will result in
that's why you understood it seconds later.programming his mind to believing that Sam is really
So what does this has to do with gossiping!!! Readmean.
further and you will get it.The effect of the programming will become 10 times
How gossiping affects the minds of the listenersmore powerful if two people did the same thing, for
If a guy never met “Sam” and you told himexample if you and a third friend told your other
that “Sam” is a mean person then his mindfriend that Sam is mean he will become more likely to
will store in its database the fact that Sam is meanbelieve you.
even if he was not sure of it.In short, our minds always tries to match the
As soon as your friends meets Sam his mind will tryexternal world with its internal world and by gossiping
to match Sam’s behavior with its internalabout someone you are modifying the listener’s
database which states that Sam is mean and so theinternal world in such a way that he might find these
result will be interpreting any mistake that Sambad things in the person you are talking about even if
makes as a sign for being mean.they were not there.
Moreover, if Sam did anything good your friend’sThe only advice I have for you is to never gossip
mind will discard it because it doesn’t match itsabout someone, please try.