| nk"> | | | | gossips to you will gossip about you." All of the high |
| Benjamin Franklin said, I resolve to speak ill of no | | | | road wisdom not withstanding, don't forget what |
| man whatever, not even in a matter of truth
; | | | | Wendell Phillips knew to be true, "The Puritan's idea |
| and Carl Sagan said, "If you want to make an apple | | | | of hell is a place where everybody has to mind his |
| pie from scratch, you must first create the universe." | | | | own business." |
| You may reasonably ask what Gossiping & Apple Pie | | | | An Apple Pie From Scratch |
| have to do with each other. Whether this article | | | | "If you want to make an apple pie from scratch, you |
| answers that pressing question is your call. However, | | | | must first create the universe." -- Carl Sagan |
| it does raise some interesting points, even if the | | | | Now there is a humbling thought. It does tend to put |
| connection is less than obvious. | | | | a damper on one's ego quotient, doesn't it? Invention |
| "I resolve to speak ill of no man whatever, not even | | | | and creation are far less original than they are |
| in a matter of truth; but rather by some means | | | | typically represented as being. Alexander Graham Bell |
| excuse the faults I hear charged upon others, and | | | | certainly understood this, "Great discoveries and |
| upon proper occasions speak all the good I know of | | | | improvements invariably involve the cooperation of |
| everybody." -- Benjamin Franklin | | | | many minds. I may be given credit for having blazed |
| Do you really believe that Franklin didn't get into a | | | | the trail but when I look at the subsequent |
| little gossiping now and then? Well, he actually only | | | | developments I feel the credit is due to others |
| resolved to stick to the high road. He didn't promise | | | | rather than to myself." Henry Ford got it too, "I |
| to do it. That's just as well, since he didn't have much | | | | invented nothing new. I simply combined the |
| trust in anyone. For example, he said, "If you would | | | | inventions of others into a car." |
| keep your secret from an enemy, tell it not to a | | | | Ralph Waldo Emerson explained how invention and |
| friend;" and "Three may keep a secret, if two of | | | | creation actually work, "Only an inventor knows how |
| them are dead." It's little wonder that he liked to play | | | | to borrow, and every man is or should be an |
| it close to the vest when it came to other people. | | | | inventor." The essence of the principle was captured |
| Speaking ill of no man, excusing faults, and speaking | | | | by Auguste Rodin, "I invent nothing. I rediscover;" |
| all the good he knew was a very clever way to | | | | and what may rank as the first corollary was |
| avoid becoming the focus of others' gossip. Franklin | | | | suggested by Jonathan Swift, "Discovery consists of |
| may have picked up the strategy from Virgil who | | | | seeing what everybody has seen and thinking what |
| said, "Fama, malum quo non aliud velocius ullum, | | | | nobody else has thought." The converse of Swift's |
| mobilitate viget, viresque acquirit eundo." If you are a | | | | corollary was offered by the famous Anon., "Don't |
| tad rusty with your Latin, that means, "Report, that | | | | expect anything original from an echo." |
| which no evil thing of any kind is more swift, | | | | The take home point is that inventions, creations, |
| increases with travel and gains strength by its | | | | and discoveries aren't themselves unique or original. |
| progress." | | | | They are merely the objects or outcomes. Creation |
| With authorities the like of Virgil and Franklin | | | | is in thinking what nobody else has thought. |
| admonishing you not to gossip, it's in your interest to | | | | Robertson Davies said, "Although there may be |
| know as much as you can about gossiping and | | | | nothing new under the sun, what is old is new to us |
| gossips. For instance, Walter Winchell clarified one of | | | | and so rich and astonishing that we never tire of it. If |
| the gossip's core strategies when he said, "Gossip is | | | | we do tire of it, if we lose our curiosity, we have |
| the art of saying nothing in a way that leaves | | | | lost something of infinite value, because to a high |
| practically nothing unsaid." The super stars pursue | | | | degree it is curiosity that gives meaning and savor to |
| their art through inference and innuendo, not facts or | | | | life." Curiosity ignites imagination; and imagination in |
| plain talk. Bertrand Russell added his two cents worth | | | | turn fuels the fire of creation. What then is this fire, |
| with, "No one gossips about other people's secret | | | | this imagination? Peter Nivio Zarlenga's words hold the |
| virtues." When it comes to gossiping, if you don't | | | | answer, "I am imagination. I can see what the eyes |
| have something good to say, it's your turn. | | | | cannot see. I can hear what the ears cannot hear. I |
| Of course, Virgil and Franklin aren't the only high road | | | | can feel what the heart cannot feel." Dr. Seuss' |
| folks who advised against gossiping. Edward Wallis | | | | advice is a fitting, concluding message for all who |
| Hoch said, "There is so much good in the worst of | | | | create, from universes to apple pies. "Think left and |
| us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it hardly | | | | think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks |
| becomes any of us to talk about the rest of us." If | | | | you can think up if only you try!" |
| that weren't the final word on it, a Jewish proverb | | | | You may now be asking what Gossiping & Apple Pie |
| says, "What you don't see with your eyes, don't | | | | have to do with each other. Actually, I doubt that |
| witness with your mouth." No, that's still not the end | | | | they have anything to do with each other; but |
| of the unsolicited advice. A Chinese proverb says, | | | | perhaps you will see a connection, if only you Think |
| "What is told in the ear of a man is often heard 100 | | | | left and think right and think low and think high. It's |
| miles away;" and a Spanish proverb says, "Whoever | | | | merely your opportunity to pursue. |