| Yes, you can 'sense' that there is something wrong | | | | show your concern in the matter.o When your |
| with your marriage. You can see it in your partner's | | | | partner shows lack of interest in anything you do or |
| eyes, his or her behavior and also the quality and | | | | involves you, frankly ask about the issue bothering |
| quantity of time that you spend together. The | | | | him or her. Take particular care not to sound rude or |
| mistake most of us make, before we know for sure | | | | intruding.o To be absolutely sure whether your |
| that the marriage is over, is to cast wrong and | | | | marriage is over or not, watch the quality and |
| damaging aspersions on our partner. Has she found | | | | quantity of time that you get to spend together. Is |
| someone else? Is he thinking of a divorce? What | | | | he or she looking for the smallest excuse to remain |
| would happen to the kids if he walks out? | | | | away from you? |
| Hundreds of questions arising out of the surrounding | | | | Don'ts:o Cast wrong and illogical aspersions on his or |
| uncertainty cloud the mind. But every time we make | | | | her character. This can permanently damage the |
| an 'assumption' on this serious matter, we are adding | | | | marriage.o Start arguments or a blame game, just by |
| one more nail to the coffin. We are moving away | | | | presuming that the marriage is over.o Discuss the |
| from saving the marriage and moving in closer to | | | | matter with friends and other members of the family. |
| disaster. Here are some dos and don'ts to know | | | | These comments usually ricochet and damage the |
| when the marriage is over, aimed to guide you | | | | relationship. If there are gossips you hear, ignore |
| through the process of searching for an answer: | | | | them.o Debate or argue if your spouse decides to call |
| Do's:o Be alert and sensitive to every move and | | | | off the marriage or seeks temporary separation. |
| action of your spouse.o Arrive at a conclusive picture | | | | Giving counter logic usually never helps; neither |
| through the process of elimination.o If your partner is | | | | pleading nor begging. |
| acting emotionally distant, check whether everything | | | | At the end of the day, there is nothing better to |
| is normal with his job, career, finances, health, | | | | clear uncertainties than to go for a frank discussion |
| parents, siblings, etc.o If you find that there is no | | | | with your spouse regarding his or her future plans. |
| cause for any worry on these fronts, call your | | | | There is hardly any point in living with a dilemma |
| partner for a frank and open discussion where you | | | | regarding such an important part of your life. |
