| Do you find yourself repeatedly falling into an old | | | | settings where you most often find yourself |
| habit you would like to break? Do others complain | | | | gossiping. Perhaps when two of your best friends get |
| about something you do that annoys them? Are you | | | | together, you all have a tendency to start talking |
| wanting to change a belief code or pattern that no | | | | about others. For this exercise, visualize yourself with |
| longer is useful? | | | | your two friends. |
| Take a few moments to quiet your inner and outer | | | | The setting could be a place where you meet on a |
| world. Take several deep breaths in and out until you | | | | regular basis, such as a coffee shop. Notice the space |
| are able to relax your muscles and let the weight of | | | | you are in: What does it look like? What things do |
| the world slip away. | | | | you feel: the chair you are sitting on, a wall you are |
| Search for something weighing on your heart, such | | | | leaning against, a coffee mug? What do you smell: |
| as a habit to break. Focus on something within | | | | the air, food, perfume, cigarette smoke? What do |
| yourself, not another. This time is for you. | | | | you taste: coffee, cola, doughnuts, the pen you are |
| As an example, you find yourself thinking, "I don't | | | | nibbling on? What sounds do you hear: coffee |
| want to gossip anymore." Yet, when the next person | | | | grinders, cars driving by, people chattering? |
| comes your way, you fall back into your old pattern. | | | | Observe your friends beginning the gossip session. |
| You then get angry or frustrated with yourself, | | | | See yourself as being quiet, not adding fuel to the |
| perhaps releasing that anger through another bad | | | | fire. Soon your friends notice you are silent and |
| habit, such as drinking to drown your emotions or | | | | attempt to draw you into their conversation. See |
| lashing out at others. | | | | yourself speaking only kind words about others. |
| One way to help break through the old pattern is to | | | | Notice how this makes you feel. |
| bring it to your conscious mind, ready to resolve the | | | | At first, this new behavior may be uncomfortable to |
| issue. The first step is to clearly state your intention | | | | you and your friends. Yet, as you practice, first in |
| in a positive manner. There are a number of ways to | | | | your mind and then in actual circumstances, you will |
| do this. One method is to write down what it is you | | | | become more empowered and more comfortable |
| intend to change. | | | | shedding undesirable habits. |
| Another method is to stand in front of a mirror and | | | | Usually one of two things will happen. Your friends will |
| state your intentions while looking yourself in the eye. | | | | stop inviting you to their gossip sessions or they will |
| You can also repeat these intentions silently to | | | | follow your example. If they choose to continue |
| yourself whenever they come to your mind. Maybe | | | | gossiping, you will find that you are no longer |
| writing your intentions and posting them as reminders | | | | interested in joining in and will likely choose other |
| will work for you. Try various methods until you find | | | | friends or leave when the gossip begins. |
| what works best for you. | | | | Now, let us share with you the contrast of stating an |
| For the example of gossiping, you may choose the | | | | intention of what you do not want. Once again, you |
| affirmation, "I speak only kind words about others." | | | | have cleared your mind and stated your intention, "I |
| The reason it should be stated in a positive manner is | | | | do not want to gossip anymore." |
| because of the law of attraction and the power of | | | | Using the same example of the two friends, visualize |
| intention; what you focus on is what you draw unto | | | | the same scenario, again using your senses to see, |
| yourself. | | | | touch, smell, taste and hear yourself in the situation. |
| If you were to state an intention such as, "I do not | | | | In your visualization, you will be gossiping but perhaps |
| want to gossip anymore." The mind does not | | | | you will stop yourself in mid-sentence, or maybe you |
| understand the concept of "not." The mind will focus | | | | will tell your friends that you no longer want to |
| on the subject, gossip, thus you will find it harder to | | | | participate in gossiping. The outcome may be the |
| break the habit, for you will be drawing unto yourself | | | | same, but the transition is much different. |
| gossipers and gossiping experiences. | | | | In the first example, you were only saying kind |
| By stating the intention, "I speak only kind words | | | | words about others. However, this time, because of |
| about others," the contrast is vastly different. The | | | | the way you stated the intention, you will be |
| following will explain the process so that you can | | | | gossiping, but not wanting to do it anymore. Can you |
| better understand how intentions operate. | | | | see the difference? It may seem subtle, however, |
| In order to manifest anything, the basic order is the | | | | the difference is huge. |
| same for all scenarios. Clear your mind, speak you | | | | By stating, visualizing and practicing what you want, it |
| intention and then visualize the outcome. See yourself | | | | is easier and quicker to break the habit by simply |
| in the final outcome of the situation. As much as | | | | doing or being what it is you want to create. |
| possible, feel those emotions; use your senses to | | | | However, by stating the intention and visualizing |
| see, touch, smell, taste and hear yourself in the | | | | yourself in the process of breaking the habit, you will |
| situation. | | | | find yourself in repeated patterns or situations that |
| Here is the difference. You have decided that you | | | | give you the choice to practice the behavior you |
| want to break the gossip habit. You have cleared | | | | wish to change. |
| your mind clearly state your intention, "I speak only | | | | Ponder on this until you see the full implications. |
| kind words about others." Then you visualize yourself | | | | Practice it in any situation until you are able to shed |
| doing just that, speaking kind words to others. | | | | old patterns and transform yourself into the beautiful |
| You may choose to visualize yourself in one of the | | | | being that you already are. |
