| We all get betrayed in life and it's usually an innocent | | | | are strings attached. |
| thing. The other person had no idea what they were | | | | Betrayal of love is even worse. When the one you |
| doing would be seen as a betrayal by you. Trust me; | | | | love finds another, our hearts are wounded, aren't |
| you just aren't that important to most people. The | | | | they? Even if you no longer wanted that person, do |
| most important person is that person only, when you | | | | you find yourself feeling betrayed and jealous when |
| come right down to it. That's the way it should be; | | | | they find love again? Ego rears its head again as you |
| we can all only work on ourselves and have no right | | | | start down that road of recriminations. If that person |
| to foist our 'shoulds' on someone else. Dependent | | | | dares to continue doing something you shared-with |
| children and pets aside, we need to learn to keep our | | | | the new person-the feeling of betrayal intensifies. |
| noses on our own faces. | | | | Evidence of betrayal can be found all around, from |
| Oh we mean well, don't we? Most of us do our best | | | | the person who tells another something you shared |
| to help others when we can. The problem is, most | | | | in confidence, to the cheating lover. The confidence |
| people help others because it makes them feel | | | | thing is easy to fix; get over it. The person probably |
| better. If they didn't get the positive reinforcements | | | | forgot that it wasn't to be shared. Stop telling people |
| of thanks, they wouldn't be so willing to do so much. | | | | things you don't want to get leaked out to others. |
| Be honest with yourself now. What is the real | | | | The cheating lover is another thing: use better |
| motive, deep down inside, that drives you to do | | | | discernment next time. Especially if your new lover is |
| good for others? Forget that dogma taught by your | | | | cheating with you, what makes you think they won't |
| religion and go deep inside. When you do you might | | | | also cheat on you? |
| be shocked to find out that you are really stroking | | | | Betrayal starts within each of us and has to do with |
| your own Ego when you give to others. | | | | Ego. Mind your own inner business, control the Ego, |
| It's the Ego that feels betrayed and it usually starts | | | | and don't share intimate secrets that you don't want |
| with: "...and after all I did for them! How dare they! | | | | others to know. Most of us are just a bunch of |
| "Yes, that is Ego, rearing its' ugly misshapen head. It | | | | gossips and can't be trusted with something really |
| feels betrayed when the thank you's stop and the | | | | juicy; when we gossip on ourselves and it gets out, |
| person you are helping goes away without so much | | | | whoa--don't we just get upset? Learn to laugh at |
| as a 'by your leave'. Even worse, if the person you | | | | your gossipy self and realize the fault lays with you, |
| helped starts talking smak about you and telling | | | | not the nosy friend that talks too much. They are |
| others what a real pain you are. They might even | | | | just more out in the open about it. |
| warn others not to accept your help because there | | | | ©2010 Dr. |
